Dr. Allbright- this was so beautiful to read and hit home on so many levels. I love that your husband uses boxes around the house to toss random things into- we will take up this practice too. Pray that the socks make it into a box or laundry basket! 😂
Thank you so much for cultivating this expert advice for us here, I feel much less alone with your words.
The problem isn’t ADHD which is controversial as a diagnosis in adults as are similar conditions but the attitudes and expectations of others. As you rightly put it - controlling. They are doing more damage than they know. There isn’t a correct way to do life as an adult.
Its also interesting to think about how perhaps different types of ADHD, for example I'm inattentive, shows up and what that changes - alongside the often co-existing autism (again which I have) because I dislike spontaneity, I get inertia and paralysis more than distraction or the hyper active part etc.
Ooh, the Dirty Laundry book has been on my to be read list for a while -- now I'm excited to get to it!
Absolutely, it is so complex, and ADHD presents so differently for different people, especially, as you mention, in terms of co-presenting with autism and other conditions. That is such a valuable point about how things like spontaneity aren't universal ADHD traits. There is so much more to it than that.
Thanks for diving into the relationship struggles between non-ADHD and ADHD people in a partnership. It's helpful to read about other experiences and solutions.
Dr. Allbright- this was so beautiful to read and hit home on so many levels. I love that your husband uses boxes around the house to toss random things into- we will take up this practice too. Pray that the socks make it into a box or laundry basket! 😂
Thank you so much for cultivating this expert advice for us here, I feel much less alone with your words.
💜 Thank you so much for your kind words! I am so happy that this piece spoke to you.
And yeah...the things definitely don't always make it into the boxes and baskets. But it still helps us! 😂
Having the assumption of a parent-type role and its implications explained is very eye-opening for me in my marriage. Thank you!
For me too!!! I'm so glad this spoke to you.
The problem isn’t ADHD which is controversial as a diagnosis in adults as are similar conditions but the attitudes and expectations of others. As you rightly put it - controlling. They are doing more damage than they know. There isn’t a correct way to do life as an adult.
I'll want to read through a few times but I think Dirty Laundry book is good re ADHD and relationships. https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1529915406?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
Its also interesting to think about how perhaps different types of ADHD, for example I'm inattentive, shows up and what that changes - alongside the often co-existing autism (again which I have) because I dislike spontaneity, I get inertia and paralysis more than distraction or the hyper active part etc.
It can be so complex.
Ooh, the Dirty Laundry book has been on my to be read list for a while -- now I'm excited to get to it!
Absolutely, it is so complex, and ADHD presents so differently for different people, especially, as you mention, in terms of co-presenting with autism and other conditions. That is such a valuable point about how things like spontaneity aren't universal ADHD traits. There is so much more to it than that.
Thanks for diving into the relationship struggles between non-ADHD and ADHD people in a partnership. It's helpful to read about other experiences and solutions.
I agree! It was so helpful to me to read books about neurodiverse relationships. Happy to hear you appreciated the post.