Discussion about this post

User's avatar
kaylen alexandra's avatar

"I am a cis woman, and I do a number of things to support my male spouse with executive functions—maintaining a family calendar, keeping track of paperwork, keeping a written record of things he might forget, providing him with storage options for his “piles of chaos"—that fit pretty neatly within what might be considered “wifely” duties." Dr. Allbright- this resonates. I have a feeling that there are many women in the world giving this kind of support to our partners.

Would you consider proving a piece with tips for our partners on how to better support a spouse with ADHD?

Thank you!!

Expand full comment
Anuschka's avatar

After years of DBT and not finding out what I suffer from or better said, why I am so different from other people, I read a book about ADHD in adults and thought, this is it. After visiting a specialist, he immediately said, he thinks I have something else and it turns out I am in the autism spectrum - and after reading your piece I still see a lot of similarities between the two.

My husband - having some special needs himself - had a lot of adaption to do so we could stay together. I can only function under special circumstances but at least I still can work part time.

Keep the stories coming. I was diagnosed with 42, this was 11.5 years ago - I knew I am mentally ill years before I started therapy (disfunctional parents, addicted and co-addicted) and have a lot of family and friends suffering. I was always open and I have no problem if someone is mentally ill but NOTHING changed in the last 25 years here in Switzerland - I could throw a fit about this frustrating environment.

Expand full comment
6 more comments...

No posts