Yes I feel you SO much on the "but wouldn't it be nicer to just do my work WITH a cup of tea"? 😂
I love your point about making yourself more comfortable. That approach tends to speak to me personally much more than a reward -- basically, what is the way to make this unpleasant task as pleasant as possible for me? And I love the way you …
Yes I feel you SO much on the "but wouldn't it be nicer to just do my work WITH a cup of tea"? 😂
I love your point about making yourself more comfortable. That approach tends to speak to me personally much more than a reward -- basically, what is the way to make this unpleasant task as pleasant as possible for me? And I love the way you say that honoring this is a form of taking yourself seriously.
I am very grateful for your generosity in sharing! Thank you so much for commenting and chatting with me about this.💖
On this topic, I feel drawn to bring up the subject of intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation. Giving yourself "rewards" for completing goals is very much an extrinsic motivation, albeit one you have made for yourself. In my experience, that is less effective than the intrinsic motivation of appreciating the value of achieving a goal and has a feel of somehow "tricking" yourself into doing something - not necessarily a problem in itself, but can lead to a feeling of ... cheapening? ... the achievement and possibly making the reward less effective in the longer run. Whereas the intrinsic motivation of doing the thing because you want to ... or need to ... to get to where you want to be or as a step to getting what you really want ... can have more of a tendency to build self-confidence and self-esteem.
Of course, trying to operate solely using intrinsic motivation may involve recognising that some tasks are just not worth doing! But then prioritising is an important skill, too 🙂
Yes, thats so true. I also remember that from my psychology lecture and what really sticked with me was that students who where given external rewards did enjoy the task less and also did it less in the future whereas the students who where not externally rewarded felt more joy and also the task more or the same in the future. I also like your point about prioritising. Also, prioritising in itself is such a paradox: there is only one priority, only one first thing. There are no priorities. Only one priority. We can shift our priority from time to time because the demands of the world and our goals shift and change, but we can only have one priority at a time.
Yes I feel you SO much on the "but wouldn't it be nicer to just do my work WITH a cup of tea"? 😂
I love your point about making yourself more comfortable. That approach tends to speak to me personally much more than a reward -- basically, what is the way to make this unpleasant task as pleasant as possible for me? And I love the way you say that honoring this is a form of taking yourself seriously.
I am very grateful for your generosity in sharing! Thank you so much for commenting and chatting with me about this.💖
On this topic, I feel drawn to bring up the subject of intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation. Giving yourself "rewards" for completing goals is very much an extrinsic motivation, albeit one you have made for yourself. In my experience, that is less effective than the intrinsic motivation of appreciating the value of achieving a goal and has a feel of somehow "tricking" yourself into doing something - not necessarily a problem in itself, but can lead to a feeling of ... cheapening? ... the achievement and possibly making the reward less effective in the longer run. Whereas the intrinsic motivation of doing the thing because you want to ... or need to ... to get to where you want to be or as a step to getting what you really want ... can have more of a tendency to build self-confidence and self-esteem.
Of course, trying to operate solely using intrinsic motivation may involve recognising that some tasks are just not worth doing! But then prioritising is an important skill, too 🙂
Yes, thats so true. I also remember that from my psychology lecture and what really sticked with me was that students who where given external rewards did enjoy the task less and also did it less in the future whereas the students who where not externally rewarded felt more joy and also the task more or the same in the future. I also like your point about prioritising. Also, prioritising in itself is such a paradox: there is only one priority, only one first thing. There are no priorities. Only one priority. We can shift our priority from time to time because the demands of the world and our goals shift and change, but we can only have one priority at a time.