What I have found useful when I experience RSD is writing is very useful in documenting my spirals, the shame which for me is prevalent, and then processing it and talking it through with myself. I can then look at where it might be coming from, what parts are at play and along with my therapist then try and think about alternative views…
What I have found useful when I experience RSD is writing is very useful in documenting my spirals, the shame which for me is prevalent, and then processing it and talking it through with myself. I can then look at where it might be coming from, what parts are at play and along with my therapist then try and think about alternative views of the same thing. I.e. what other explanation could there be for X not messaging you back?
What were you telling yourself at the time?
Reflection and for me, going through it rather than around it has been very helpful in not only recognising that it is RSD and it is PERCEIVED rejection but also that next time, I can more quickly get to the alternate view and regulate more effectively/quickly
There is so much wisdom in these healing strategies! “Going through it rather than around it” is a phrase I’m going to keep close to my heart.
This comment also makes me think about the value of being able to name a thing like RSD--so we can, as you say, recognize it when it’s happening and remember new ways to approach it. This is another thing for me to think about in terms of how RSD is a valuable term regardless of the lack of research on it (at least so far!).
That is true, naming things helps especially when it's so very complex and often tied to so many emotions and experiences that can often cause the individual experiencing them to feel shame. I think, as the articles you alluded to and you did, as more experiences are documented, more assessments are carried out and more of individuals real life experiences are shared and discussed then hopefully more can be named, perhaps separated and then understood... Leading to better resources and support. 🤞🏻
What I have found useful when I experience RSD is writing is very useful in documenting my spirals, the shame which for me is prevalent, and then processing it and talking it through with myself. I can then look at where it might be coming from, what parts are at play and along with my therapist then try and think about alternative views of the same thing. I.e. what other explanation could there be for X not messaging you back?
What were you telling yourself at the time?
Reflection and for me, going through it rather than around it has been very helpful in not only recognising that it is RSD and it is PERCEIVED rejection but also that next time, I can more quickly get to the alternate view and regulate more effectively/quickly
There is so much wisdom in these healing strategies! “Going through it rather than around it” is a phrase I’m going to keep close to my heart.
This comment also makes me think about the value of being able to name a thing like RSD--so we can, as you say, recognize it when it’s happening and remember new ways to approach it. This is another thing for me to think about in terms of how RSD is a valuable term regardless of the lack of research on it (at least so far!).
That is true, naming things helps especially when it's so very complex and often tied to so many emotions and experiences that can often cause the individual experiencing them to feel shame. I think, as the articles you alluded to and you did, as more experiences are documented, more assessments are carried out and more of individuals real life experiences are shared and discussed then hopefully more can be named, perhaps separated and then understood... Leading to better resources and support. 🤞🏻